Edit: this stamp was made by me years ago, I've changed my mind about many things but I find most of the stuff I wrote down here to be still valid.
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And please, read the whole text IN the stamp before commenting. I know it's pretty long, but if you don't you'll miss the whole point.
First of all, let me say that I'm not into the seme/uke thing, I try to keep the characters IC. So, if two boys have very different characters and one behaves in a more submissive way, it's obvious I'll portray him like that.
But I usually try to portray relationships as equal. I love equality between men and women, equality between men and equality between women.
But this doesn't mean other people can't draw/write seme/uke relationships.
People bash yaoi fangirls for liking the seme/uke stereotype, but THEN they ship het couples where the girl is "uke" the 99% of cases. Incoherent much. And I'm not talking only about the sex, but about the character. I see very few couples where the boy is very very shy, short and moe while the girl is tall, tomboyish and strong. I see few couples where girl and boy are both tall/both short, because the boy is always taller. I see few couples where the boy is the tsundere and the girl is the sexy pimp who wants to make him fall in love at all costs.
I don't even see why you compare the seme/uke thing with het stereotypes. Or how should it "support" gender roles.
No matter how girly a boy acts, it's still a boy. This means that that boy acts against the male stereotype, no matter if he's hetero, gay, bi, pan, ace, whatever. Those "uke" boys just tell how stupid the gender roles are (and remember they're called GENDER roles because they're about GENDER. And they're boys, not girls.) because they act differently from the male stereotype.
Everytime you say "guys in male/male relationship should act masculine!" you're supporting the male stereotype, you're saying "males must be masculine". And who are you to decide how people/characters should be/act?
YOU are the stereotyper here. YOU're talking like if acting more "girly" should be a shame.
Of course this goes also for yuri stuff.
A lot of couples are perfectly fine with one being dominant and one submissive. Take Brian and Justin or Ben and Michael from Queer as Folk. But hey, also Emmett and Drew from the same series. It's clear that there's a dom and a sub in their relationships. But they love each other and they don't care, they're just like that, it was natural to them to fit together well that way. It's their character. Now, do you want to accuse Queer as Folk for "supporting" the seme/uke thing? Is the problem the tv series... or the stupid people who think that ALL the gay couples do have a dom and a sub just because in the series the couples are like that? The same goes for yaoi. It's not yaoi's fault: it's just lots of people who start to like it are just still ignorant on the matter, so they think all gay couples do have a seme and an uke. But it's not yaoi's fault. It's like saying it's Superman's fault if a kid jumps out of the window and dies because he thought he could fly. So, come on, let's ban Superman from all the world! Superman is evil! Superman is dangerous! Omg!
...Or maybe it's simply the kid's parents' fault for not teaching him the difference between reality and fantasy? Just sayin'.
I know, I know, now you're thinking: "but that's not what I hate about it! I hate the fact yaoi fangirls really do believe that real gay people are like that! Some of them come to me and ask me stuff like 'are you seme or uke?', that's annoying!"
Yeah, some fangirls do. But please now calm down, take something to drink, relax yourself and listen:
You should understand that those fangirls who ask such questions are just exploring a world that is new to them. Before finding out the yaoi genre they weren't interested in homosexuality at all, so it's obvious they know only what they see in yaoi/shonen ai stuff. But give them time, give them some years to explore the LGBT world and they'll change their mind.
I've grown up too, and so did all my friends who love yaoi/yuri, and our behavior has changed. If some fangirl asks you things like "are you seme or uke?" just tell her that in real life things are not like in BL manga, because it means she just doesn't know. Fangirls are curious and all fired up on the matter, and I think that's exacly why we should teach the newbies how things are in real life too, teach them all we can on the LGBT world, so that they can become a great and fired-up "army" and really help in LGBT-related matters. They're like curious children, asking weird questions cluelessly but really, really curious. They're like newborn sprouts, we just have to give them water.
To read more: comments.deviantart.com/1/2419…
And check out the comments: you could find there answers I didn't put here. Some comments you might find interesting to read before commenting yourself:
Comment by a lesbian who likes yaoi and who talks about gender roles: comments.deviantart.com/1/2926…
Comment by a fangirl who talks about yaoi fangirls and people who insult them: comments.deviantart.com/1/2926… (You should read it before attacking fangirls. Seriously.)
Comment by a fangirl who compares yaoi to fantasy stories: comments.deviantart.com/1/2926…
Comment by a girl who explains why the seme/uke thing is actually a very good thing against gender roles: comments.deviantart.com/1/2926…
Confession of a man who explains how the seme/uke thing is "a natural way for many people to understand and accept homosexual relationships": comments.deviantart.com/1/2926…
Very interesting comment by a girl who probably explains this better than I did: comments.deviantart.com/1/2926…
Please, tell me if I made any grammatical mistake in the stamp. I'll correct it ASAP!
Ah! And comments like "oh well I h8 yaoi anywayz so I dun care lulz!!1" will be hidden, because they're useful, terribly short and they're not even taking the stamp seriously."It is the story of the magnificent banquet: six hundred different plates offer themselves to your appetite; are you going to eat them all? No, surely not, but this prodigious variety enlarges the bounds of your choice... choose and let lie the rest without declaiming against that rest simply because it does not have the power to please you. Consider that it will enchant someone else, and be a philosopher."
--The Marquis Donatien de Sade
"The 120 Days of Sodom"